Tuesday Sept. 29, 2015

 

Do you remember the rock band Bad Company? I was working out to it this morning and noticed that they used the word love a lot in the first 3 songs. The sweet kicker was the 2nd to last s480ong; Ready for Love. And what about Led Zepplin’s Whole Lotta Love?  Here’s something to take note of, moms of tween and teen girls. Romance and love has been the bomb for all females for centuries.  And remember? Music often created in us feelings of love. We didn’t even have to have a boyfriend!

What might your daughter miss out on (besides respect and honor) if she disconnects sexual activity from love and romance?

Many of us heard nonstop love songs from grade school through High school daily on the radio. Even the oldies took us to another world. Remember Little Anthony and the Imperials- Going out of my mind? Wow! Our Rock musicians sang about love, cool female singers sang songs that dripped love and affection, as did our country musicians. It was not sex they sang about.  The energy of love and romance was a part of everyday life. And then…Madonna came in; all rough and tough, “Give it to me”; sadly, no mother guidance there. She had passed. Then hip hop and rap came riding in on MTV. It all revolved around s e x.

Love and romance has become a side kick. Oh what they are missing. And worse what might their memories be? Most adults over 45 have memories that come alive still today -just hearing those songs.

Now days all we hear from talk show hosts, teens, and actors in media is- ‘They had sex’, ‘ We had sex’,  ‘You had sex?’, put out there like it’s a… (get ready) bowel movement; yes, a physical act with no heart connection. Parents today are using these phrases. There are two better phrases that if used often will subconsciously change you and your daughter. I will share them in the next blog.  At first I took it literally. And then I realized, ‘Hey, so do the kids.’ But they are not growing up to love songs. So, if a misguided, or zero guided 8th grade girl performs the epidemic –on and off campus act of “oral’; she has obviously never connected the dots. She has not been guided and primed to know that her sexual well being is connected to her heart and spirit.  Many parents wait for the school to do their job. Yea right.

This is not a criticism.  It is simply reality in today’s world.  How do you share with your daughter the obvious: that romance and love come first, and that her heart and spirit are the guideposts? Don’t all females young and old know this? No, they do not.  For most females this is a no brainer. But a twisted media has taken over. And  parents and their girls, even with a spiritual support system is not enough.  TV programing we can trust is gone and a strong united parental guidance program has yet to been shown to you, There’s no doubt, that most media today corrupts way more than it enhances. Money is their bottom line.

So what’s our goal parents? Keeping them safe is not enough.  Let’s begin by putting two and two together and take action. Please put on your feeling cap. Baby steps, the right questions and willingness to go inside yourself  and answer them- is the only way to grow confident and comfortable with this overwhelming subject.

Here’s your homework for next week. And yes, the answers may vary greatly for a mom who was in high school in the late 90’s.

    1. Have you   a) always or almost always  b) sometimes  or c) rarely    –   connected sexual intimacy with romance and love?
    2. If your answer was always or almost always     –      why and how come? Please write down your answers and thoughts.
    3. If sexual intimacy was only sometimes or rarely connected with love and romance ? Why? How come? Write thoughts and answer down.
    4. How important is to you that your daughter connect love and romance before becoming sexually active?  Why or why  not?  Two paragraphs if possible.                                      
  • Perhaps do this while playing a few of your favorite love songs.  Good luck! 

About the author: Mimmy Loftin

1 Comment

  1. Yes Mimmy for me Intimacy has always been linked with Love and Romance. <3 🙂

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