Upside Down and Sideways

On a recent reality show…and let’s admit it – many of them are just an exaggerated aspect of what is going on in our world, a beautiful, but less than well- educated woman said “I told him we have to stop having babies out of wedlock.   We need to get married.”  And he said “I don’t think I am ready. I still have a commitment phobia”.  Ahh…hello… bringing a human being into this world is not a commitment?

This is not a guy’s fault. This is a generation of women that do not know their value and are willing to have a child with a man that does not commit.  What if this 28-year-old had established her V B S (values, boundaries and standards) in her tweens or early teens?  Could someone have shown her how to begin this process? Yes, if the adult around her knew this practice and was willing to do it herself.

    Many mothers today…are not as clued in to why men are not committing as their own mothers were.  They just know few men are willing to go there.  And few young women today are willing to do and not do what it takes to create a worthy relationship. Sorry Charlie- but self- restraint, high standards and delayed gratification have many reasons for existing. Letting a guy know you are worthy is just one of the reasons for practicing these three higher level life practices.  And the more shows our young ones see that show having a baby without ‘A ring on it’, the more skewed and painful life can become.  Ouch.

About the author: Mimmy Loftin

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