Upside Down and Sideways

On a recent reality show…and let’s admit it – many of them are just an exaggerated aspect of what is going on in our world, a beautiful, but less than well- educated woman said “I told him we have to stop having babies out of wedlock.   We need to get married.”  And he said “I don’t think I am ready. I still have a commitment phobia”.  Ahh…hello… bringing a human being into this world is not a commitment?

This is not a guy’s fault. This is a generation of women that do not know their value and are willing to have a child with a man that does not commit.  What if this 28-year-old had established her V B S (values, boundaries and standards) in her tweens or early teens?  Could someone have shown her how to begin this process? Yes, if the adult around her knew this practice and was willing to do it herself.

    Many mothers today…are not as clued in to why men are not committing as their own mothers were.  They just know few men are willing to go there.  And few young women today are willing to do and not do what it takes to create a worthy relationship. Sorry Charlie- but self- restraint, high standards and delayed gratification have many reasons for existing. Letting a guy know you are worthy is just one of the reasons for practicing these three higher level life practices.  And the more shows our young ones see that show having a baby without ‘A ring on it’, the more skewed and painful life can become.  Ouch.

I guess I can’t escape doing a blog about the notorious KKK group that seems to have infiltrated many young and not so young girls lives the last – what 8 years? I jokingly call the Kardashians the Kardashian Komedy Klan.  Why? Because if I don’t laugh at what I saw –I might throw a brick through a window. Living in the same city, it wouldn’t be all that hard to do. I see mothers here disgusted and frustrated. They roll their eyes, shrug, and share a scary story about the daughters worshiping Kylie Jenner.

The Neices

My Klan…some of my nieces… they may have a K in their name, the similarity stops there.

I have had to watch Keeping up with the Kardashians, if I was going to make comments and share with mothers, “Don’t let your babies grow up to be Kardashians”- Hey that’s a song isn’t it? Oh no, it’s Cowboys.  Well, these chicks don’t ride horses but…..Stop Mimmy, stop!  Before I share what I saw the other evening, in their defense, they have a very loving family, a very co- dependent family and absolutely no recovery. How’s that for blatant honesty? Chances are if they did, a few main characters would have bailed on the show. But money speaks louder than rigorous honesty and discovering one’s VBS, (values, boundaries and standards) Miracles happen all the time.  But this one- has yet to happen.

So, I click on their latest show.  It opens with 3 darling little toddlers, the father, and 2 of the KKKer’s. Ah, family! They’ve got us hooked and softened. But what I saw later- I had to double take! No, Kim K did not say in her soft little voice “Oh, I’m so excited about doing the M L F video. It’s going to be so cool.” No no, no.   I truly thought I misheard her. She and a few other mothers were to dress up in latex (scantily and sleazily clad) and rock their booties showing they could still be sexy.  Fifteen minutes later several mothers are flailing their bodies making Madonna look like Mother Teresa.

Which takes me straight to my favorite question for any mother, of a tween or teen girl

What would (will) your 11 year old daughter, niece, or God child think if she watched this show?

Perhaps the miracle of reflecting and creating values, boundaries and standards will one day be  introduced to them. Ya think?Or will they scramble when their girls begin to….