Willing & Able

 Someone young, brave & relevant has appeared. A female with – Values & Standards speaks out. 

STANDARDS

Standards are weirdly simple but important. As you take the time and do the work and find your Standards, you may realize Standards help guide, not just society, but your everyday life. They just make life easier.

            Recently a mentor of mine (and Oprah’s) said, “You must be the standard-bearer of excellence,” and, “You are here to be a standard-bearer of existence.”. A kind of confidence happens when you actually define your standards of being. They are a simple way to keep you in check.

           A standard-bearer is a person who may be an outstanding leader, or who is representative of a group or movement. I see 18-year-old Emma Gonzalez from the Florida school shootings on February 14th, 2018, as a standard bearer of courage. She stood among many voicing her opinion loud and clear that “Adults are acting like children”.  It appears she has been brave in several areas of her life.

          Today, many sane, honest, and well-meaning people in the United States agree that some of our world leaders are not worthy of serving as role models to a polite society. Although I am very comfortable with non-conformity, would it not be nice if more leaders had high qualitative value, were polite, and admired by others?

            Standards matter, because when we blow off standards we begin to see corruption, massive killings, and terrorists running around hurting and murdering innocent people. Today it is all in full swing. A society with healthy standards would uphold this principle, for example, no automatic weapons owned by civilians. No brutal dictators or leaders with low standards and little respect for people can run for public office. Humans having low standards influence others: they often scar and darken the human heart and spirit.

What Are Standards?

 I often see Standards in terms of fashion and style. Is that weird? It’s probably because I was a photographer and designer for years.

Here’s an example.

This beautiful woman comes to certain daytime community gatherings. She will sometimes show up wearing a tube top or flimsy sundress.  There are men in these meetings discussing serious topics. She is well-endowed, and it makes her stand out . . . and not for her creative input or beauty. Get what I mean?

Let’s keep it simple.

Here are some definitions:

  1. Serving or conforming to an established or accepted measurement of value.
  2. A widely recognized model of authority or excellence.
  3. Acceptable but of less than top quality.
  4. Normal, familiar, or usual, for example . . . the standard excuse.
  5. Conforming to models or norms of usage admired by educated speakers and writers;
  6. A qualitative value—a criterion.
  7. A requirement of moral conduct: the model of a polite society.

 Standards are personal and subjective. They have the power to harm or heighten a person, group or culture’s existence.

Upside Down and Sideways

On a recent reality show…and let’s admit it – many of them are just an exaggerated aspect of what is going on in our world, a beautiful, but less than well- educated woman said “I told him we have to stop having babies out of wedlock.   We need to get married.”  And he said “I don’t think I am ready. I still have a commitment phobia”.  Ahh…hello… bringing a human being into this world is not a commitment?

This is not a guy’s fault. This is a generation of women that do not know their value and are willing to have a child with a man that does not commit.  What if this 28-year-old had established her V B S (values, boundaries and standards) in her tweens or early teens?  Could someone have shown her how to begin this process? Yes, if the adult around her knew this practice and was willing to do it herself.

    Many mothers today…are not as clued in to why men are not committing as their own mothers were.  They just know few men are willing to go there.  And few young women today are willing to do and not do what it takes to create a worthy relationship. Sorry Charlie- but self- restraint, high standards and delayed gratification have many reasons for existing. Letting a guy know you are worthy is just one of the reasons for practicing these three higher level life practices.  And the more shows our young ones see that show having a baby without ‘A ring on it’, the more skewed and painful life can become.  Ouch.