Willing & Able

 Someone young, brave & relevant has appeared. A female with – Values & Standards speaks out. 

STANDARDS

Standards are weirdly simple but important. As you take the time and do the work and find your Standards, you may realize Standards help guide, not just society, but your everyday life. They just make life easier.

            Recently a mentor of mine (and Oprah’s) said, “You must be the standard-bearer of excellence,” and, “You are here to be a standard-bearer of existence.”. A kind of confidence happens when you actually define your standards of being. They are a simple way to keep you in check.

           A standard-bearer is a person who may be an outstanding leader, or who is representative of a group or movement. I see 18-year-old Emma Gonzalez from the Florida school shootings on February 14th, 2018, as a standard bearer of courage. She stood among many voicing her opinion loud and clear that “Adults are acting like children”.  It appears she has been brave in several areas of her life.

          Today, many sane, honest, and well-meaning people in the United States agree that some of our world leaders are not worthy of serving as role models to a polite society. Although I am very comfortable with non-conformity, would it not be nice if more leaders had high qualitative value, were polite, and admired by others?

            Standards matter, because when we blow off standards we begin to see corruption, massive killings, and terrorists running around hurting and murdering innocent people. Today it is all in full swing. A society with healthy standards would uphold this principle, for example, no automatic weapons owned by civilians. No brutal dictators or leaders with low standards and little respect for people can run for public office. Humans having low standards influence others: they often scar and darken the human heart and spirit.

What Are Standards?

 I often see Standards in terms of fashion and style. Is that weird? It’s probably because I was a photographer and designer for years.

Here’s an example.

This beautiful woman comes to certain daytime community gatherings. She will sometimes show up wearing a tube top or flimsy sundress.  There are men in these meetings discussing serious topics. She is well-endowed, and it makes her stand out . . . and not for her creative input or beauty. Get what I mean?

Let’s keep it simple.

Here are some definitions:

  1. Serving or conforming to an established or accepted measurement of value.
  2. A widely recognized model of authority or excellence.
  3. Acceptable but of less than top quality.
  4. Normal, familiar, or usual, for example . . . the standard excuse.
  5. Conforming to models or norms of usage admired by educated speakers and writers;
  6. A qualitative value—a criterion.
  7. A requirement of moral conduct: the model of a polite society.

 Standards are personal and subjective. They have the power to harm or heighten a person, group or culture’s existence.

I guess I can’t escape doing a blog about the notorious KKK group that seems to have infiltrated many young and not so young girls lives the last – what 8 years? I jokingly call the Kardashians the Kardashian Komedy Klan.  Why? Because if I don’t laugh at what I saw –I might throw a brick through a window. Living in the same city, it wouldn’t be all that hard to do. I see mothers here disgusted and frustrated. They roll their eyes, shrug, and share a scary story about the daughters worshiping Kylie Jenner.

The Neices

My Klan…some of my nieces… they may have a K in their name, the similarity stops there.

I have had to watch Keeping up with the Kardashians, if I was going to make comments and share with mothers, “Don’t let your babies grow up to be Kardashians”- Hey that’s a song isn’t it? Oh no, it’s Cowboys.  Well, these chicks don’t ride horses but…..Stop Mimmy, stop!  Before I share what I saw the other evening, in their defense, they have a very loving family, a very co- dependent family and absolutely no recovery. How’s that for blatant honesty? Chances are if they did, a few main characters would have bailed on the show. But money speaks louder than rigorous honesty and discovering one’s VBS, (values, boundaries and standards) Miracles happen all the time.  But this one- has yet to happen.

So, I click on their latest show.  It opens with 3 darling little toddlers, the father, and 2 of the KKKer’s. Ah, family! They’ve got us hooked and softened. But what I saw later- I had to double take! No, Kim K did not say in her soft little voice “Oh, I’m so excited about doing the M L F video. It’s going to be so cool.” No no, no.   I truly thought I misheard her. She and a few other mothers were to dress up in latex (scantily and sleazily clad) and rock their booties showing they could still be sexy.  Fifteen minutes later several mothers are flailing their bodies making Madonna look like Mother Teresa.

Which takes me straight to my favorite question for any mother, of a tween or teen girl

What would (will) your 11 year old daughter, niece, or God child think if she watched this show?

Perhaps the miracle of reflecting and creating values, boundaries and standards will one day be  introduced to them. Ya think?Or will they scramble when their girls begin to….